Bees – Page 12 – Beeshive

50 forever.

Well, Tuesday would have been Scott’s 51st birthday.

But looks like he’ll be 50 forever.

Is he in a better place?

Nope.

Is he in a worse place?

Nope.

We didn’t believe in heaven or hell or the imaginary friend in the sky.

This existence is all we get.

In many ways I’m jealous of Scott.

For Scott, there’s no more pain and there’s no more suffering.

He’s no longer plagued by daemons of what could have been or what should have been.

No more memories of growing up, of the babysitter, of our grandmother, or of our father.

All that shit is gone.

What killed Scott?

Was it the ketamine, his epilepsy, or his heart condition?

Officially the Alberta Coroner will only say that his death was due to a ruptured spleen after a fall.

What caused the fall the medical examiner can’t say because his body was fairly decomposed when he was found.

2 weeks in an apartment in the Edmonton summer will cause a body to break down fairly quickly.

But if I had to speculate as to what the root cause of my brother’s death was, I’d have to say that the Indian Residential School System would probably factor in as a significant contributor. I’d also say that the desire of the Canadian Armed Forces to hide the true extent of Captain McRae’s child sexual abuse exploits on Canadian Forces Base Namao were also a significant contributor.

In life, every action has consequences.

Some consequences are felt immediately.

Some consequences appear as ripples at a later date.

Grandma was a very angry and disturbed woman from her time in Indian Residential school.

She was not a loving or caring woman, except for her alcohol. She loved and cared for her alcohol.

My father was not much better. He was already a heavy drinker at 16 when he joined the Royal Canadian Navy in 1963.

Grandma should never have had children.

But she did.

My father should never have had children.

But he did.

Luckily neither Scott nor I reproduced, so the dysfunction ends with us.

From the time I left the house in 1987 when I was 16 until 2013 I never really had much dealings with Scott.

When I went up to Edmonton for a couple of weeks in the summer of 2013 I mentioned to him that I never thought that I would have ever spoken to him again.

Scott knew from reading my blog back then that I was having some dealings with a constable from the Morinville RCMP detachment and Scott asked me if I could arrange a meeting with this constable as he wanted to know if this constable could read his CPIC file to see if there was some explanation as to why he was frequently being pulled over for traffic stops.

I did arrange for a meeting between the three of us at a Tim Hortons in St. Albert on the St. Albert Trail. Just after my brother started asking about what his CPIC file contained the constable kinda feigned a radio call and said that he had to go.

When I talked to the constable by phone the next day he said that there were issues on Scott’s CPIC file that would have warranted his arrest, and that he didn’t want to do that as this constable was familiar with what we went through on CFB Namao.

When I collected my brother’s belongings and his remains last August, the one thing that I did notice in his passport was that he had tried to enter the United States of America but that he had voluntarily returned to Canada.

Scott had quite the criminal history.

Some people may say that Scott’s criminal history was his own doing.

But it wasn’t.

Scott’s criminal history was 100% Richard’s fault.

When we lived on Canadian Forces Base Downsview in North York, Ontario my brother started running with a bad crowd.

I think that was the difference between Scott and I.

Scott wanted to be popular and to have friends.

I was majorly depressed and just wanted to be left the fuck alone.

Scott wanted to hang out and belong.

I was the type of kid that the popular kids picked on for entertainment.

Richard had absolutely no interest in the either of us.

I had my after school and weekend jobs.

Scott had nothing to do but hang out with the thugs he called friends.

And these guys were literal thugs.

Auto thefts, B&E’s, robberies w/o weapons, credit card fraud, etc…..

And this was all before he was 16.

Richard, our illustrious father, was too busy kissing ass and polishing knobs in the Canadian Forces to climb the ranks to give a shit.

Scott’s troubles and his frequent stays in group homes and detention were solely due to Richard’s inability to give a fuck about anyone other than himself.

But to hear Richard tell it, Scott’s issues were solely due to:

Grandma’s drinking
Grandma’s cruelty
Our mother’s absence
Insanity that ran in out mother’s family tree
Me not raising my brother properly
Me letting the babysitter on CFB Namao molest Scott
The parents of the other boys not raising their kids right.
Schools not teaching Scott properly.
The civilian public schools not using corporal punishment like the schools the Canadian Forces ran for the kids of military families.

Richard was a complete skinflint.

As he told his airforce buddy Jacques Choquette once after Jacques asked my father why he doesn’t just drop Scott and I off with our mother, “As long as I keep these kids under my roof, I control the costs. If I send these kids to their mother, then I’ll have to sign my fucking pay cheque over to that bitch, and that’s sure as fuck not happening”.

So no, there were no hobbies, no activities, no trips, no going to the movies, no going to sports games, no fucking nothing.

Scott’s legal troubles would plague him well into adult life.

It’s too bad that Richard died back in 2017.

It would have been nice to have seen Richard tortured and tormented by Scott’s death.

Bobbie, you’re so smart, you can’t be depressed!!!!

Nothing pisses me off more than this horse shit.

Both the fact that this is a common attitude amongst people, and the fact that yes, while I suffer from major depression, I can get shit done.

High functioning depression is what they call it.

And it fucking sucks.

So, last week I did yet another thing that I am totally NOT QUALIFIED* to do at work.

I know that networking is not covered in any of the 4th class Power Engineering modules that I undertook via correspondence.

At work there was a standalone building management system put in that wasn’t connected to the main network for an unknown reason.

Wasn’t a concern until the system started doing funny things during the recent cold snap and we had no way of logging into it to see what was up.

It had become painfully obvious to me that this standalone system needed to be connected to the main network so that the shift engineers could get into it to manually override it if required.

I think this is the 4th MOXA NAT that I’ve installed at work in the last couple of years in order to put building automation and HVAC equipment on to the main network.

The most significant problem is the addressing for the network and the building automation equipment and the HVAC equipment have two completely different addressing schemes.

Most equipment shows up with the factory default addresses being used which typically are in the Class C range and are usually beginning with 192.168.xxx.xxx

The main network is a Class B network and starts with 172.24.xxx.xxx.

The NAT allows communication to flow between the Class C network and the Class B network without causing any headaches.

Basically in the NAT I have to create two VLANS (virtual local area networks) assign the WAN (wide area network) to one VLAN and the LAN (local area network) to the other VLAN and then create very specific rules to allow traffic to flow between the LAN and the WAN.

I create a 1-to-1 routing rule. The rule would look like this:

incoming -> 172.24.81.30 goes to 192.168.3.1, blocks ICMP, allows TCP and UDP.

outgoing – 192.168.3.1 goes to 171.24.81.30, blocks ICMP, allows TCP and UDP

All other IP addresses on the LAN are blocked from any type of communication with the WAN port and conversely the WAN can only see the single device on the LAN.

The MOXA device itself is set to respond to pings so at least IMIT can see the device is present, but even IMIT can’t see to the other side of the NAT.

I’ve had to use NATs before to let the Emergency Generator Control system and the Elevator Dispatcher to be accessed from the main network for access to readings, logs, and alarms.

Well Bobbie, the answer is clear, you need to take a course in networking if you like this so much!!!!!!

The thing is, I don’t like this.

There is absolutely nothing special about this, and the way I look at this, if an imbecile such as myself can do this, then really anyone can do this.

I had an interest in computers and electronics when I was a kid. But my father did everything that he could in order to shit all over that.

My father would spare no expense when I was a kid extolling how much of a fuck up I was, and that I was pretty fucking stupid no matter how good I was a picking up electronics and computers.

My father’s disdain for my interest in electronics and computers was legendary.

When I was in grade 8 (1985 – 1986) I had built a 5mW helium neon laser as a science project. Not going to go too far into it, but by using a pair of mirror mounted on voice coils I could scan the beam to any X-Y coordinate on a wall or screen. Or I could just feed audio into the amplifiers that drove the voice coils and I could create patterns.

My science teacher, Mr. Bowles, was blown away by this.

My brother Scott decided that he was going to sell the device that I was using to generate the X-Y scan patterns.

My father of course wasn’t concerned in the least.

Scott was acting this way because of what I had let the babysitter do to him.

Scott was acting this way because I wasn’t raising him properly.

If you’ve followed my story, you’ll know that I moved out of the house in late 1987. I really wasn’t safe in the house. Richard was absolutely unsuitable as a parent, and my brother Scott had become uncontrollable and was definitely running with a dangerous crew.

Getting work right away wasn’t an issue. Since I was about 14 I had been servicing arcade games, pinball machines, and jukeboxes for two different route operators in Toronto.

I beat a DeVry certified electronics technician at the repair of one video game that he had been stumped on for over 2 months. Took me four hours to get the machine up and running again. And it was just an 8-bit bi-directional latch that crippled the machine.

I realized quickly that although my knowledge in digital electronics had saved my bacon, without a certificate or diploma I was never going to make a living off this.

No matter how much I’ve tried to steer clear of anything to do with electronics or computers, I always get drawn back into it. And as much as I despise electronics and computers, they have saved my bacon as they offset all of my character flaws.

The last time I spoke with my father was in August / September of 2006. He brought up the topic of my laser himself and he wanted to know why the fuck that was such a big deal. It wasn’t like I had made the laser tube from scratch, or designed the power supply from scratch, I had just purchased a used laser tube and I had built the power supply using pre-made components.

When my brother came down to see me in 2021 after the public release of the 1980 Military Police investigation paperwork which proved that our father was a liar, we went for a walk around the seawall.

Out of nowhere he brought up the topic of the laser and wanted to know why it was such a big deal. Apparently while Richard was still alive between 2006 and 2017 he had talked to Scott and compared me and my laser to that kid in the states that was busted by the FBI for modifying a clock controller from a VCR and using it to control things at preset times.

I asked him if he knew what a “hacker” was and how the term originated.

I explained to him that the term “hacker” originated with people who would take electronic devices or computer devices and make them do things that they weren’t originally intended to do by “hacking” the components or the programs.

Almost everyone who is a somebody in the field of computers or electronics started off by taking things apart or decompiling code in order to see how things worked, and then making changes to make the devices work better or to do things that were more beneficial to the user.

Christ, some of the earliest hacking / phreaking involved blowing a Captain Crunch toy whistle into the receiver of a payphone in order to make free phone calls.

But, back to me. I turned my back on electronics and computers many, many moons ago.

The memories of my father’s derision, and his utter contempt towards my interests in computers and electronics was just too fucking painful.

I still work with electronics, computers, and networking even though I am NOT QUALIFIED*. I have no choice. In this day and age there is no reason for a facility like mine to not be able to extract operational data from building automation equipment and HVAC equipment.

But, every time that I do this work it tears me apart with never ending thoughts of what might have been or what could have been or what should have been.

Sure, it was my father that was an asshole.

But it was Captain McRae and his teenage accomplice what diddled about 25 children on Canadian Forces Base Namao from 1978 to 1980. It was also the Canadian Forces military social worker Captain Totzke that ensured that I knew that I was to blame for allowing myself and my brother to be abused.

And of course, my father being a lowly corporal in the Canadian Forces ensured that Captain Totzke’s opinion of me would notn be questioned by my father.

So, not only does working with electronics and networking at the hospital raise up questions about the way my father belittled my blossoming interests, but it also make me wonder how things would have turned out had my brother and I not been molested, had the Canadian Forces not buried the matter in 1980, and had I not had Captain Totzke as my social worker.

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Daily writing prompt

Share one of the best gifts you’ve ever received.

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This is an easy one.

None.

Seriously.

None.

Never received anything that I would consider a “gift” from my father. Any thing that he “gave” to me was always an obligation to keep social services at bay.

My mother was never around. Sure, wasn’t her fault, but that doesn’t change things.

My grandmother gave me the gift of PTSD and alcoholism from the Indian Residential Schools.

Any “gift” that I ever received from anyone else always seemed to come with an extremely high price.

Who do I like to be around

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Who are your favorite people to be around?

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I don’t hate people.

I don’t despise people.

I just don’t make it a habit to hang out with people.

I like to be on my own.

I grew up not having anyone to depend on. I had no one in my family that was dependable to rely on.

I can share laughs with people.

But I really really don’t like small talk or talking about personal “feelings” or things.

I hate the idea of having to form political alliances at work, but that’s the way it actually works.

There’s nothing better at triggering “shields-up” than small talk or asking me about my feelings.

I like to be out and about, just walking around or riding around on my scooter. The crowds and the traffic are distracting that keep my mind off things.

I go to concerts, but I keep to myself. I don’t like “meeting” people.

When people get to know me they start to not like me.

So I just avoid all of that drama and I just keep to myself.

This should be a good one……

Daily writing prompt

What advice would you give to your teenage self?

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What advice would I give to my teenage self?

Where oh where to start?

I don’t know.

If I knew in my teenage years what I know now I’d probably just suggest to myself the best and most humane ways in which to end my life.

I would tell my teenage self that justice is what rich people get and that dogs like me just get a rolled up newspaper on the snout if we ask for a little bit of justice.

I really wish that things could run along the lines of sappiness that this prompt is trying elicit. You know like “I’d tell myself to tell my granny I loved her before she died”, or ” I’d tell my daddy that I loved him and that I knew how hard military life was on him”.

But what the fuck could I tell my teenage self that wouldn’t be fucking devastating.

“Hey Bob, your father actually knew the truth about CFB Namao but he sold your mental health for some favours from the chain of command”.

“Hey Bob, you actually weren’t to blame for yourself, your brother, and the other kids being abused. This is just something that Captain Totzke concocted to shame you into silence so that you wouldn’t tell any civilians about what happened”

“Hey Bob, you mother didn’t abandon the family, your father had your mother thrown off the base by the military police because the Defence Establishment Trespass Regulations allowed for this to happen”

“Hey Bob, your father knew exactly how damaged your grandmother was and that she was an alcoholic and that she was extremely cruel to you and your brother”

So, what exactly could I tell my teenage self that wouldn’t have led me to having an extreme mental breakdown?

My dream home

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Write about your dream home.

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What would my dream home be like?

I don’t know.

I never lived in a place that I would call a “home”.

And I never lived in any place that I would call a “dream home”.

The houses I lived in were all fucking traumatizing nightmares, and I don’t mean that they all had the same fucking paint scheme no matter which base they were located on. Living in an abusive dysfunctional family in military housing on military bases was the traumatizing nightmare.

I grew up living in Private Married Quarters on Canadian Forces Bases.

And with my rage prone alcohol fuelled father, these weren’t homes.

They were houses.

It’s where I kept my shit.

It’s where I slept at night.

It’s where I was absolutely terrified to ask my father for help with school homework as that would launch him into a rage and fury.

From the time my mother left in 1977 until September of 1985, I never had a birthday. In 1985, no doubt due to my father’s rampage in the PMQ during the summer of 1985, I had a “birthday” of sorts. A small cake and a $20 bill. And a promise that he would never forget my birthday again. That was the last birthday of mine that he ever acknowledged. I guess once he realized that the base military police were not going to inform the Children’s Aid Society of Toronto about his massive meltdown in the PMQ in the summer of ’85 he didn’t have to pretend to give a shit about me any longer.

My alcoholic grandmother living in the PMQs and raising my brother and I didn’t make things any easier. If I had to take a wild guess, I think that my father got his mental issues from her. As much as he would claim that she was an alcoholic that was cruel to his children, he was the exact same.

When my father received his final posting in June of 1990 to go back to CFB Edmonton in anticipation of his retirement, he and my stepmother bought a house in Morinville, AB.

I lived in an actual house for the first time in my entire life. Not a military PMQ. Not a rooming house where I rented a room after I moved out of the PMQ on CFB Downsview when I was 16. An actual house, with walls that you could hang pictures on without fear of pissing off the base construction engineers.

Yeah, my stepmother had me booted out within a week of us moving from CFB Griesbach to Morinville.

She apparently did the same with my brother when he finished his sentence at the St. John’s Training School for Boys in Uxbridge, Ontario and moved to AB to stay with our father as Scott was still only 16 when he was released.

So yeah, never really did live in a real home as a kid.

I’m happy with my bachelor apartment.

It’s not too big.

Growing up in my father’s house it was either “go the fuck outside and stay the fuck outside until the lights come on” or ” get the fuck up to your bedroom and stay there” or “get the fuck to school”. There were no weekend nights playing boardgames or watching Disney on TV or any other family style of activities.

And that’s why I like my apartment.

I’m either sleeping all day, or I’m at work, or I’m out and about trying to keep my brain from ruminating over and over about what I could have done differently in life.

My apartment, just like the PMQs, is just a place where I store my shit, and go to sleep.

Did the Canadian Armed Forces really think that I was a fucking patsy?

The one thing that I will never get over is how the Canadian Armed Forces wrote me off as an insignificant patsy of absolutely no consequence.

When Petty Officer Steve Morris of the Canadian Forces National Investigation Service called me on November 4th, 2011 and told me that “the investigation couldn’t find any evidence to indicate that the babysitter was capable of doing what I accused him of”. He did this with a laugh in his voice. A laugh that was meant to convey a not too subtle “fuck you”.

I think that’s the one thing that’s driven me so fucking hard to keep digging and digging.

The other thing that has driven me so fucking hard was the telephone call I had with Master Corporal Christian Cyr on May 3rd and May 4th 2011 when he let slip that the CFNIS knew about the connection between my babysitter and Captain McRae

In the August 1985 Edmonton Journal article about my babysitter, the crown prosecutor mentioned to the judge that my babysitter was already serving 2 years of probation for molesting a young child in Manitoba.

I had dealings with an RCMP constable in 2012. This constable ran a CPIC check on my babysitter based upon the information presented in the Edmonton Journal newspaper article. The constable didn’t give me any details save for that unlike what the Steve Morris told me on November 4th, 2011 the babysitter had a very extensive record of child molestation running from 1982 until beyond 1990 with many charges and convictions with many more charges withdrawn or stayed. The RCMP constable confirmed that the babysitter had been charged and convicted in Manitoba for molesting a young boy.

It was also this constable that laid to waste the lies uttered by Master Corporal Christian Cyr to me on May 3rd, 2011 when he insisted to me that the babysitter was only 12 or 13 years old in the spring of 1980. The babysitter turned 15 in June of 1980.

Anyways, last week I was as sick as a dog. So I spent time at home in bed with my laptop and my Newspapers.com subscription.

One of the many searches that I had done yielded information about the military social worker that I was in the care of from age 9 to age 11, Captain Terry Totzke.

But, I also hit upon a jackpot with the babysitter.

A newspaper article from 1985 centred on a woman who was trying to get stiffer sentences for child molesters in Manitoba. The woman, speaking under a pseudonym, mentioned that her two boys, one 2 years old and the other 4 years old at the time of the abuse, had been molested by their male babysitter who was only 17 years old at the time he abused the two boys.

She also mentioned that a 6 year old girl had been molested by the same babysitter that had molested her children and that this girl had been forced to watch the babysitter abusing other kids and was having all sorts of psychological issues because of that.

A quick bit of math shows that 1985 – 3 =1982. 1982 – 1965 =17.

What the fuck are the odds?

Oh, it gets fucking better.

The sexual abuse happened in St. James, Manitoba.

Wanna guess where St. James, Manitoba is located?

What the fuck are the odds?

It just keeps getting better and better the more time rolls onwards.

I’m doing a little bit of research right now and I’m just waiting for some information gel before being able to 100% link this 17 year old babysitter to my babysitter who would have also been 17 years of age in 1982.

And this really makes me wonder just how many times did the Canadian Armed Force move child molesters from one jurisdiction in Canada to another.

From the bit of research that I’ve done on pedophiles (people with sexual attractions to prepubescent children) and hebephiles (people with sexual attractions to children ages 11 – 14), these people tend to develop their attractions in their teen age years.

So let’s say that someone develops their attractions while they 12 or 13 years old.

A military dependent living with their serving parent could possibly have 2 or 3 moves with their serving parent between their 13th and 19th birthday. How intense this predator’s urges are will determine how many instances of abuse that they could cause.

Let’s say that a 14 year old boy living in the military housing attached to Canadian Forces Base Esquimalt molests a 6 year old girl living in the City of Victoria.

Let’s say that it’s a year before the girl works up the courage to tell her parents.

Let’s say that the boy’s father had been posted to CFB Gagetown in New Brunswick.

How would the Victoria PD ever be able to make the connection?

Let’s say that this boy molests a few more kids in the small towns around CFB Gagetown in New Brunswick.

Let’s say that this boy’s father is posted out to CFB Borden in Ontario.

How are the New Brunswick police supposed to link this boy to the crimes in Victoria, BC.

Let’s say that the boy molests some children in Barrie, Ontario

Let’s say the boy moves out of the military housing a year after arriving at CFB Borden.

How is this boy ever going to be linked to any of his crimes?

Unlike in the civilian world, the Canadian Armed Forces were using taxpayer money to move this boy’s family due to the serving parent’s transfer.

But don’t worry. It’s not just the Canadian Armed Forces that have problems with military dependents sexually abusing other military dependents in the housing provided to military families on military bases. The US Military also has a substantial issue with this.

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/nation/u-s-military-fails-to-protect-children-from-sexual-abuse-on-bases-ap-reports

How bad is the problem?

The Canadian Armed Forces, the Department of National Defence, and even more tragically the Department of (anything but) Justice will circle the wagons, call me a loser, and carry on like nothing ever happened.

The problem comes down to the fact that the CAF, the DND, and the DOJ claim that children living on military bases have no right to expect to be safe and that the CAF and the employees of the CAF, including military police, are under no obligation to protect civilians living on defence establishments.

My Military Social Worker.

If that’s one thing that people have trouble wrapping their heads around is how did I have a military social worker.

But Bobbie, you weren’t a soldier. You weren’t in the military. How could you have a military social worker?

Back in my day, we couldn’t get medical care at the base infirmary. We couldn’t get dental care at the military dentist unless the base we lived on was far away from the nearest civilian dentist.

But when it came to social workers, especially in “sticky situations”, the Canadian Armed Forces had no problem with unleashing their employees onto the children of military service members.

I didn’t pay much attention to Totzke’s career after I was no longer involved with him in 1983.

I should have though.

He joined the Royal Canadian Navy in 1966. Seems to have been involved with the naval band when he first joined.

Sometime after 1983 the good captain became a lieutenant colonel.

By 1984 he was the Area Social Worker for Pacific Command.

He was involved with the Sea Cadet program on the west coast.

He didn’t seem to stay in the Canadian Forces for much longer as by 1989 he was working at Nanaimo Regional General Hospital’s Dufferin Place extended care unit as a social worker.

Nothing much more out of the ordinary with Terry Totzke. He seemed to have retired from social work in the ’90s and went on to play drums in a band.

The band had some religious connections.

The one thing that does stick out though as interesting is that one person that Totzke had direct involvement with committed suicide with a crossbow.

Not too much was publicized about the suicide other than it appears that the man who committed suicide was suffering from a mental illness and Totzke had been involved with denying this man the ability to see his mother in a nursing home as Totzke was concerned that the man’s mental illness would be upsetting to the mother.

Really, none of this is surprising.

The counselling that I received from Totzke from October of 1980 until April of 1983 had driven me to attempt suicide two times in that period of time.

Social work and military didn’t really work back then.

Social work in the military was more about control and contain.

Blame the victim.

Make sure the victim understood that they were just as guilty as the abuser.

I wasn’t a 7 or 8 year-old victim of the babysitter and captain McRae for a year-and-a-half.

No, I was a budding homosexual pervert that enjoyed being abused and enjoyed watching my brother be abused.

During our meetings or the school visits, Terry would often remind me that he had the base military police watching me to see if I ever tried to kiss or touch another boy.

Terry was the reason that I wasn’t allowed to play team sports anymore. Might be naked boys in the change room. I might lose control of myself and start having sex with these boys.

And don’t forget, as Captain Totzke’s affair, it was his responsibility to get me the treatment required for my major depression, my severe anxiety, and my haphephobia.

In fact, he just seemed to stand by and watch me deteriorate to the point that I was supposed to have been institutionalized.

Even when Alberta Social Services finally began to put the pieces together and realized that I was in danger the longer I stayed in my father’s house, Totzke appears to have been very instrumental in helping my father obtain a posting out of the jurisdiction of Alberta to avoid my apprehension.

And even at our new posting, the new military social worker, Captain Linda Tyrell, offered absolutely no assistance to the Children’s Aid Society of Toronto when CAST tried to contact my father.

What do I complain about the most?

What do you complain about the most?

Well, that’s a hard one.

When one suffers from major depression, severe anxiety, and trauma from untreated childhood sexual abuse one tends to have a lot of observations, but I wouldn’t necessarily call this complaining. Okay, maybe some of it is complaining, but fuck it.

It’s just that when one has to work so hard to get to a certain place in life while watching those who have never suffered a single bruise or blemish in their lives cruising through life and reaping all the rewards without the slightest in effort, it gets fucking annoying really quick.

I think one of the things that pisses me off the most is watching those who came from supportive families cruising through life with nary a want or a encountering an unfulfilled desire.

Did my father ever show an interest in school when I was a kid?

Nope.

Did my father ever get his drinking under control?

Nope.

Did my father ever protect my bother and I from his alcoholic mother, who in his own words to social services, was extremely cruel to his children?

Nope.

Did my father stand up to the chain of command in 1980 when the decision was made by the Canadian Armed Forces to minimize the number of charges brought against Captain McRae?

Nope.

Did my father help me with my first car?

Nope.

Did my father help me with my first apartment?

Nope.

Did my father help me when I ended up on the streets after one job prematurely ended and a promised job after relocation fell through?

Nope.

Did my father write me into his will?

Nope.

Did anyone help me with the last minute and completely unexpected travel expenses and cremations expenses to dispose of my younger brother’s body?

Nope.

So here I sit, at age 53, watching all those that came from good families, that never had a single unfulfilled want in life, go through with their happy fantasy lives while I get told to be happy because my life could have been so much worse that what it actually is.

And yes, I’ve known people who have been in the foster care system. A system that I could have been placed into had it not been for the actions of Canadian Armed Forces officer Captain Terry Totzke. These people seemed to enjoy the support of their foster families. All the while I keep getting told that I should be happy that I lived with my father.

Even though my grandmother went through the Indian residential school system, and her alcoholism that led to my brother and I being sexually molested by our babysitter and Captain McRae could rightfully be blamed on the trauma she endured at residential school, do I get any sort of support for this.

Nope

Let’s face it, my father’s anger, his alcoholism, his cruelty, his complete lack of concern for anybody but himself, and his inability to take responsibility no doubt originated with his mother. The fact that she was an alcoholic during her pregnancy with him probably explains a lot of his behavioural difficulties. Do I get any type of support for this?

Nope.

In fact, when I bring up what I believe to be the root of my family’s dysfunction, I get called a “pretendian”.

I also get told that I should be thankful that I had the opportunity to grow up in a safe environment like Canadian Forces Bases and that I had the opportunity to play with military toys that kids in the civilian world would have enjoyed.

So yeah, I guess I have a lot of gripes.

However, people telling me to get over the past and simply move on with my life are probably my biggest gripe.

Fuck I hate those assholes with every fibre of my being.

Say it ain’t so.

Why am I not surprised in the least.

At this point in time the Canadian Forces National Investigation Service needs to be shut the fuck down and the military should lose the right to operate their own justice system in times of peace.

These fucking clowns are beyond compromised.

They are soldiers first, police officers second, and they are beholden to the chain of command at all times.

Members of the CFNIS are nothing more than meat puppets on the end of marionette strings being pulled by the chain of command.

I have a bunch of alerts set up on Google that alert me to when anything involving specific topics hits the media. This is how I was able to locate my babysitter back in 2015.

But at least 2 or 3 times a month I get alerts about the Canadian Forces military police and the CFNIS.

It should be obvious to just about anyone who pays attention to current events that the Canadian Armed Forces and the military “justice system” have some very serious issues that need to be dealt with.

But there are still those in the public realm who for one odd reason or the other have an undying fire in their belly to protect the military police no matter what the cost.

Take this letter from a concerned citizen that believes that the Military Police Complaints Commission should stick to its very narrow mandate.

Yep, the military police don’t need any oversight from a pesky outside civilian agency that doesn’t understand the inner workings and traditions of the Canadian Armed Forces.

The chain of command should be left to deal with these matters internally and out of the public eye and without the need for external supervision to ensure that matters are actually dealt with and not filed away in the circular filing cabinet.

After all, look at how well the Canadian Armed Forces handled the Captain Father Angus McRae child sexual abuse scandal on Canadian Forces Base Namao.